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albasel1975

Germany

November 9, 2010

 

 

An online community can take the form of an information system where anyone can post content, such as a Bulletin board system or one where only a restricted number of people can initiate posts, such as Web Blogs . Online communities have also become a supplemental form of communication between people who know each other primarily in real life. Many means are used in social software separately or in combination, including text-based chat rooms and forums that use voice, video text or avatars.

But the question now is , is that true that we can make true relationships through the internet community? Are all the feelings we feel towards our friends are true or false ones?

It bacame something usual to hear that someone is in love with a girl or a girl is in love with aboy she met on line...

Is that a true love? can it be successful kind of love? or the cheat each other? we hear that they are in love,but has their love proved to be real?

If they are living in different continentsm in different countries or even in different cities..can they meet each other and continue in their relationship till they reach marriage?

I don't think so...

They can be friends.. they can give each other some false information, even they can give themselves false names... they can have fun in appearing in a shape or a character they are totally different from...

they can give promises all the time, but in theycan't keep their words... when they are expected to carry out what they were talking about they very intelligent in giving excuses and justifications...

We are humans and we all have weak points... we may be cheated and think for a while that we are in love with someone we know on line... but don't we decieve ourselves... Is that feeling not a crime weit against ourselves.... Is it a false love story we live in ?

Do we fall in love online because the way the people appear different from they do in real life and we prefer to live in fancy?

My dear friends we all must give a word in that topic.... i really need to hear your opinion about that...

am waiting for your opinions...

Your friend ,

Albasel1975  

please : leave a comment on that topic.. don't read and jump out... be positive and share us

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11:49 PM Nov 12 2010

albasel1975
Germany

My dear friend Julie,

I am so lucky to recieve your very sweet message before leaving, thank you very much juile... I am sure we will meet again... it was very good chance to meet such good friends like you... soon we will have many discussions and very interesting topics.... will miss you all..

see you,

yours,

Ahmad ( my real name )

bye !

11:37 PM Nov 12 2010

Julie3

Julie3
Russian Federation

Hope these are not my final words, conclusion or summary as love can be discussed for so long and from so many points of view. Come back soon and we are waiting for new interesting and heart touching topics! Have a great week, dear friend.

06:42 AM Nov 12 2010

albasel1975
Germany

My Dear Julie,

Thank you very much for your wonderful last addition... It was the best conclusion to my topic... in fact , you leave nothing for us to add as you have dealt with all the points we might try to discuss. Even if we tried to talk about these points, we wouldn't be able to give that amaizing summary you have come out... So, thank you very much for your caring and for your last green comments, when we are reading it we felt that we are walking on a green land full of trees and flowers..your words are the trees and the deep meanings and ideas are the flowers whose fragrance charm every one smells it.

And the best words i close my this topic are some attractive words i have seen in your profile :

" Unfortunately we are not angles ...we are just humans gaining our experience through ups and downs, findings and losses, right and wrong acting, love and pain. I am not an angel to my great regret "

Thank you Julie , Thank you Lolita , thank you Murat , thank you thearath, thank you Allisa and thank you mink_mink ..

thank you for sharing me my thoughts .. i have enjoyed that very much

i wish to find you again when start a new blog or when start a new discussion..

Unfortunatly, i won't be able to be online for the coming seven days

so, till we meet again

Good bye

yours,

albasel

08:50 PM Nov 11 2010

Julie3

Julie3
Russian Federation

And you know I found very close and true friends here and i am sure they are honest and sincere. Our friendship lasts for a year already and i am going to see my friends in real as this is their wish as well - to meet, chat, laugh, remember and continue to be good friends.

08:21 PM Nov 11 2010

Julie3

Julie3
Russian Federation

Hello dear Albasel, thank you for your interesting and discussion-causing blog, and hello dear Lolita, thank you for your nice comments,Actually I don’t wonder why people seek for love and friendship in the Internet as I can determine some reasons for this. The most common – they have little time for real communication (they spend more time working or at home in front of the screen of the computer as now it is an integral part of our life), because they experience lack of communication skills, too shy, think they are unattractive or smth like this. Virtual reality gives an opportunity to be whoever you want to be or be yourself. You can meet “fake” people (like Murat said people using different nick names, addresses, telling lies) in real life. And at the same time you can meet your love everywhere (right round the corner, or in another country)…yes, we can be friends or love of “fake” people cheating on us and then may be laughing at it but sooner or later you will find out it for sure. I don’t think people can cheat for several months or years…friendship as well as love are checked (or tested) by time for sure. Love and friendship grow only on smth mutual, kind, supportive (here I don’t mention criminals, maniacs who are able to “love” but they have nothing human and kind…but mutual interest to do smth bad can lead to love between such people lol) …but not fake, negative or bad. Love is a dialogue of two souls, when there is nothing in one of the souls or in both there is no love, just an illusion and while time passing the illusion disappears. When you love, no matter in real or on line, you will be loyal, true and caring and striving for seeing your “half” as one of the important sides of love is its physical one, when you are eager to see his/her eyes, smile, touch and smell…feel heartbeat. So on-line love converts into a real one. Love is blind and sometimes we love for even cannot explain what and why.

12:59 PM Nov 11 2010

albasel1975
Germany

My dear friend Lolita,

how are you? Thank you for your new addition...but it appears clearly that you are against any relationship online exceeds the limit of the word " online friendship".

what will happen if some one you know on line, admired your character and personality and your magic charmed him, he fell in love and declared that he loves you...what will be your situation that time if he really was in love honestly... will you feel guilty if you kicked him out and broke his heart? or will you find it easy to put his legs behind the red lines you put for your relationship.... will you point to a sign you put saying " Don't Cross this line "....

If it is on your own part, what will you do if you find your self atracted to some one and yourself flying to his direction , will you stop yourself from doing this? will you say to yourself " wake up you are dreaming"    or will you leave yourself to your heart lead it to the way it likes?

I have nothing behind my these questions but we are just discussing and exchanging thoughts.. and i think our friend Julie3 following and sharing us.

thank you Lolita

yours, albasel

12:37 PM Nov 11 2010

albasel1975
Germany

Dear Julie3.

you are welcome to share us our thoughts and ideas any time.. Thank you very much for adding a new fact... you are right, If some one is honest in his real life he can't be liar in his virtual one , because he will behave as he does in real, telling lies is not one or part of his character cheating won't be a part of his personality... if he trule loves he will love from the bottom of his heart...

I agree with you that how love happen or where it happened is not the matter, but truth, loyality and caring is the what we must think about..

I have the same wish you have ; I wish to meet only true friends who will be honest with me all the time... and here in Ebaby It is a gift tha i met a very wonderful group of people ...

why you are wondering that people looking for friendship and love on line ?

every one has his own motives and intentions ... some see that he is not good in making such relationships in real life so he resorts to the internet which is a fertile area for finding his or her soul mate. some find happiness in collecting number for names in his or her friends list, the more they have the happier they feel. some do this just for killing time. and some of them find their real happines in their fancy world.

once I asked a friend , " why are you looking for " love " on line ? "

He gave me a very strange explanation...

he asked me " Have you tried to have Pizza In a restaurant ? "

I replied " Yes "

He added " Have you enjoyed it ? "   " yes " , I replied

He said , " you can make the same kind of Pizza at home but it will taste different. the same thing but different taste , the same for love online it has a different taste, terrific "

lol... in fact it was the strangest simily i have ever heard.... for my own part i can't judge his opinion.... but any way i will never relate " love "  to " Pizza " ..LOL

Thank you Julie3

yours,

albasel

05:09 AM Nov 11 2010

Muratİstanbul34
Turkey

ı have read.

ı think it can be..but how online love can be ?

people should be carefull. because there are so much fake people.

ıf people dont say lie ecahother and can be honest why not true.

and share theirproblem what a beautiful..

but we should know to find true people internet too difficult

and need chance.

ı am 40 years old and this year start to use internet and ı have interested phscology when I was universite.

ı have noticed internet use usually people who they have not got bravery and they have got problem specialy lıfe and they can not set up good relatıonship ın real life.

ı have opened page since 2 months.english baby.

but ı can say that there are alot of people use 2 or 3 ebaby page..

diffrent nıck name.

and they can sent to theirself comment and write anything so interesting.that effected other friends.

thats way..yes we can find good people too...and ıf we can find true people..

why not to love online.

posiible everything ın life.

10:28 PM Nov 10 2010

lolita_lempicka
Yemen

again you are welcome :))

now you gat my point its just like you mentioned there must be a real concetion like our eyes our hearts the touches that garntee us its a so fact we cant cheat under cover facke like underscreen we just be our slefs in our good or bad ways not hiding behind the pc and pretending that we are perfect ppl who are looking for pure love comeon thers limits we can share ideas and cultures as you sayd but this just sharing not makeing a life partner .thanx for you too albasel :)

 

juli .. i defently wonder like you why ppl looking for online love while they gat it around maybe the answer is the are good enough in writting and sending meesage rather than talking directly LOL ..been facke apart online is much more easer than been facke in reality thats all ..

08:18 PM Nov 10 2010

Julie3

Julie3
Russian Federation

Hello dear friend, may I share my ideas again? You are discussing the theme of love and relations which is very personal. For me it doesn't matter where people met - in real life or in the internet (electronic life) but if a person is honest, sincere, reliable, loyal in real life he or she will be the same in "virtual" life. The question is why people seek for love and friends on line? Why don't they do this where they live, work, spend most of the time? Is this a lack of communication skills? Or easier for them to be what they really are only in front of the screen? Or they are afraid of being cheated and hurt in real?

I hope I will meet people I got acquinted with here and who became friends of mine as I am sure there is no obstacles for this: state borders, language, culture, religion, color of skin or eyes or whatever. Everything (including love real or virtual) depends on a person.

04:12 PM Nov 10 2010

albasel1975
Germany

Dear Lolita,

Sorry if I didn't reach the core deep meaning of your vision, but if we look at the relationship that may take place through the internet , it can be acceptable.. knowing each other, exchanging thoughts and ideas, sharing information and giving someideas about cultures is the expected and normal come out of the internet relationship... but what about if the both sides felt that there is a strong bond connect them and they tried to strengthen that relationship that it may reach to " love" ... will this kind of relationship be successful? this what we were talking about...

but in fact you gave the typical adjective to the other side " electronic " ... LOL

you know !! it is a perfect description as he or she is invisible and all the relationship based on Instant messages.. so it is an electronic relationship not a real one....when you look to someone's eyes and notice his or her facial gestures while talking is different from recieving a message from him or from her.... messages can lie but eyes can't... right?

thank you for your brillian description that led us to a good sum up...

thank you again  Lolita

yours,

albasel1975

04:12 PM Nov 10 2010

albasel1975
Germany

Dear Lolita,

Sorry if I didn't reach the core deep meaning of your vision, but if we look at the relationship that may take place through the internet , it can be acceptable.. knowing each other, exchanging thoughts and ideas, sharing information and giving someideas about cultures is the expected and normal come out of the internet relationship... but what about if the both sides felt that there is a strong bond connect them and they tried to strengthen that relationship that it may reach to " love" ... will this kind of relationship be successful? this what we were talking about...

but in fact you gave the typical adjective to the other side " electronic " ... LOL

you know !! it is a perfect description as he or she is invisible and all the relationship based on Instant messages.. so it is an electronic relationship not a real one....when you look to someone's eyes and notice his or her facial gestures while talking is different from recieving a message from him or from her.... messages can lie but eyes can't... right?

thank you for your brillian description that led us to a good sum up...

thank you again  Lolita

yours,

albasel1975

04:06 AM Nov 10 2010

lolita_lempicka
Yemen

you welcome :)

but am not talking about love cuz i completly i gree about wot you sayed about love am talking about the relation it self personaly i cant fall in love with some1 i dont know or garntee if he is a real person or an electronic person LOL..

02:20 AM Nov 10 2010

albasel1975
Germany

My friend loit_lem pika frm Yemen,

confirming the word " false " by repeating it three times means that you are totally against love online relationship...

But is reason you are sure that it is false because they can't meet each other?

I don't hink so... may be we can't meet each other but we are honest and realistic to each other... we may not be able to meet but every word i say or type express my honesty... I think that being unable to meet doesnt give the both sidea chance to prove their loyality for each other...that when they are really honest to each other.

the word " Love " is not a mere compination of four letters , but it has a deep meaning mixture of deep true feelings...

for my point of view love doesn't know areal boarders,different in citizeships,different in religion, different in language nor culture..

if the both sides are truely in love and theywere honest from the first moment they may deside to meet and nothing can prevent them from doing this..

may be it seems to be fancy but hat what i see when love exist...

but if it is a mere relation for just passing or for killing the time, i think the situation will be different as it is not love but laugh at and cheating..

Thank you again for sharing us

yours,

albasel1975

02:03 AM Nov 10 2010

albasel1975
Germany

My friend Thearath fom Cambodia,

thank you very much for visiting my Humble Blog.

 Second you are very true... every one of us creat his own virtua world on the internet; say what he he expects to hear, treats a he wished to be treated like..

He apears as he wishes to be inreal... all these are facts..

you know my dear friends, i bet that sometimes the one is sure tat he is being cheated and is being told fake things , howeverhe enjoys that very much...and that what i can't explain or understand !!

as you said, treating by heart is the best thing we must do.. why lies? why cheat?

we all hope that yowish come true

Thank you again my friend Theartha

yours,

albasel1975

12:32 AM Nov 10 2010

lolita_lempicka
Yemen

false false false ..i consider it as an illusion relation ..evreything has a limit and the net world can build an exchanging and shareing ideas  but its stops in relating souls it cant pass the limit of the reality world unless if there is a serious personal meeting and then the  relation considered formaly to a reality relation and it happens rarly ..but keep contacting online only its just an illusion love .

11:02 PM Nov 09 2010

Thearath

Thearath
Cambodia

Yeah, to me, I do like to read and share my opinion of this. Of course, It is really hard to find and meet the true love by online or everywhere else, but you just think that what you will get is what you did. And mostly what do you think, you will do, and you will meet. so everyone will do as same as you do to them.........Just do everything by heart is the great way.................Wish all meet all the good things.....:)

10:40 PM Nov 09 2010

albasel1975
Germany

My friend Julie3, 

In fact I am very agree with you Smile... and thank you very much for your visit to my Blog... in fact you have a very good way in describing what you are feeling and I do respect your way of thinking....

The best think we can take from your words that every one should treat with other by his own nature and never put on a mask... We must respect ourselves and we must belive in our own personalities... If you believe in yourself m you will never wish to be some one else...

Thank you again Julie3 for your participation

yours,

albasel1975

05:41 PM Nov 09 2010

Julie3

Julie3
Russian Federation

Per my personal opinion and experience there is a part of truth as well as false. I know personally people met each other on line and then got married or became good friends. The same things happen in real life not only in vertual space where we can pretend or be honest as per our own motives and decisions. For me it is easier to be myself in the Internet than in real, probably other people prefer to be someone they are not. Anyway easier to be without mask when you don't know people in real and never meet them than being face to face, don't you agree?

12:35 PM Nov 09 2010

albasel1975
Germany

Dear friend mink_mink

thank you for sharing us

I think both of us hashe same point of view regarding this topic

thank you for passing on my Blog

Your online friend,

albasel1975

12:32 PM Nov 09 2010

albasel1975
Germany

Thank you Allisa for visiting my Blog..

Your comment gave us 50% persentage of being true... but let us look at the bright side and take its centage in general.. how many cases we find this kind of relationship true?...  I think it is rare to find some one honest in every word he utters , in every feeling he expresses....

If you find some one honest and he deals with you honestly and by his own nature without wearing a mask, i think then you will be the luckiest one on the online community....

any way I am very obliged for your caring and on your sharing

Thank you Allisa

your online friend,

albasel1975

10:03 AM Nov 09 2010

ALLISA

ALLISA
Peru

that is true ... in my country there are two womans killed by her housband and how she met him? WAS FOR ONLINE!!!!!!!! ... BUT ALSO THERE ARE ANOTHER CASES THAT IT IS TRUE LOVE.

ALWAYS SUSPICIOUS OF PEOPLE U TALKING WITH ... THEY CAN BE FRIENDS IT IS OK!  BUT ALWAYS KEEP YOUR FEET ON GROUND

09:44 AM Nov 09 2010

mink_mink

mink_mink
Thailand

i think it's false.